Sexual Relationship Counseling for Individuals & Couples in Vancouver, WA -Portland metro area
Sex Therapy for Couples:
As relationships evolve, it isn’t uncommon to experience sex or intimacy difficulties. A key component in a healthy relationship is sex, and for many it is the one aspect they feel uncomfortable talking about. Many couples choose to attend counseling focusing on sex after years of unsatisfying sexual encounters, recent recognition that a past sexual trauma has impacted them, painful sex, navigating sex after birth or menopause, navigating a non traditional sexual relationship, recognition of a sex or pornography addiction, or having recently disclosed an affair. While these can be trying times for many couples, the first step in seeking out counseling is often the hardest. You will find a welcoming, non judgmental environment in which you can discuss your sexual differences or desires and seek resolution with your partner, heal from past wounds and come out stronger in your relationship.
Sex Therapy for individuals:
As individuals, it isn’t uncommon to experience anxiety, addiction or feelings of isolation in regards to your sexuality or desires. Engaging in sex therapy can be uncomfortable and scary at times, which is why we strive to encourage open and honest reflection of sexual desires, finding true pleasure in your relationship. Individuals may attend therapy to discuss their sexual preferneces, shame in sexuality, addiction or sexual isolation that has negatively impacted their well-being. Many individuals may have experience with anxiety regarding sexual attraction, inability to maintain an erection or orgasm, and discomfort with fetishes. Sex therapy can help you bettie understand yourself, your desires and better be able to communicate those to a potential partner.
In your sex therapy sessions you will experience a non-judgmental, compassionate place to voice your sexual concerns, and find ways to incorporate your sexual desires into your relationships. Our therapists’ have specific training in sex therapy, and are able to work with a wide range of challenges including sexual or pleasure differences, understanding intimacy after children, arousal difficulties, as well as sex or porn addictions, fetishes, differences in desire (low or high sexual desire).
How do I know if sex therapy is right for me?
When we refer to therapy being one of the most vulnerable and yet rewarding experiences of a person’s being, we forgot to mention sex therapy! Sex therapy is historically fairly new. Since sex continues to be a taboo subject in our society, and for many families it is very hush hush, it may feel very uncomfortable to seek out sex therapy. Let us just say, you are not alone!
For many attending sex therapy, they state they are embarrassed, ashamed, or uncertain about their concerns. Sex therapy can be helpful to manage any number of challenges, including but not limited to feeling a dissatisfaction of sex in your relationship, pleasure differences, infidelity, sex or porn addiction, navigating open relationships, or reigniting the flame.
For many couples and individuals speaking the genuine truth about their sexual concerns can alleviate a lot of anxiety and uncertainty.
Frequently Asked Questions
Have questions? Compass wants the therapeutic process to be transparent, so that you know what to expect, and that you feel comfortable. We understand that talking to someone new can bring up feelings of fear and uncertainty for some, so we hope that these questions ease those feelings and bring a certain level of readiness and comfort to seeking help with any one of our therapists at Compass Whole Health. Check out some of the frequently asked questions in the list below.
If your question isn’t answered here, give us a call at 360-828-5350.
- $130 per 60-minute couple/family counseling session
- Full Session Fee for No Show/Late Cancel (outside of 24 hours)
- $25 Returned Check Fee
Therapy is an investment in your yourself. How important is it to you? What is it worth to you?
If you are unsure of the financial commitment, feel free to give us a call anyway. We can provide referrals to other therapists in the area who accept insurance. And, depending upon your current need, we can discuss other resources such as workshops and books that may be helpful as you decide your readiness for therapy.
You are probably anticipating the answer “it depends” – and you would be correct. It is impossible to predict the total number of sessions needed, as each couple is unique and the number of sessions will vary.
Some clients will attend as few as 12 sessions, while others may attend 20 or more sessions to achieve the changes needed to maintain lasting satisfaction.
Furthermore, some individuals will complete their initial run of sessions and go on their way. Others will stay connected with their therapist and schedule occasional refresher sessions or check-ins to ensure that they are maintaining the positive growth they worked so hard to achieve.
Often we recommend weekly or bi-weekly 60 minute sessions at the start of counseling to help build needed trust and comfort in the counseling relationship. Weekly appointments may also facilitate more active progress toward goals. As progress toward initial goals are made, it may be helpful to spread the sessions further apart. We will discuss what is right for you as we work together.
Our address is 613 E McLoughlin Blvd, Vancouver, WA 98663
Private practices typically don’t have set hours. Our therapists work by appointment only, and each therapist sets their schedule. Some work days only, some work nights and weekends. If you need a particular time frame or day of the week, contact our intake line to discuss this.
Do your research. Review online directories, such as Psychology Today, to compare different therapists in your area and search by specialties. Check out the therapist’s website, paying special attention to see if their message resonates with you.
Many therapists offer services for sex therapy; however, not all have completed their education and training in sexual issues. Ask if they have had courses in sex therapy, assessment of sexual addiction, or if they have received supervision from someone who was an experienced sex therapist.
Looking for the type of license that a potential therapist holds can be important. Having a license as a Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) indicates that the practitioner has completed coursework specific to couples and understands how to effectively work with the delicate nature of intimate partner relationships however it does not always mean that they have additional training and expertise in sex therapy.
Look for additional trainings and certifications that the therapist has completed, paying close attention to those trainings and certifications that are specific to the couple relationship and are founded on research.
And last, but certainly not least, you should feel comfortable with the therapist. Research indicates that the most important factor contributing to the success of therapy is the relationship between the therapist and their clients. This means that the relationship you have with your therapist is more important than the therapists’ education and training, more important than the model of therapy the therapist uses, and even more important than the years of experience of the therapist.
Most therapists will offer an initial phone consultation. Take advantage of this opportunity to connect with potential therapists. You should be able to determine if you would feel comfortable working with the therapist within the first few minutes of the conversation.
Click here to schedule a FREE 15 minute phone consultation to determine if we are a good fit. If the available times do not work with your schedule, call or *text 360.828.5350, or *email us at email@example.com, to request another time for your consultation.
This phone conversation will give us a chance to interview each other – but not in the anxiety provoking interview way. This will be more of a getting-to-know you talk. We want to ensure that you are getting exactly what you need for your relationship.
Please note that as therapists’ most of our days are spent having uninterrupted time with clients; therefore, we are not always immediately available. We encourage you to leave a message and we will return your call at our earliest convenience.
*Note that text and email are not secure methods of communication. Please reserve text and email communication for scheduling a time for consultation only. We can discuss the details of your particular situation during our phone consultation.
We do not accept insurance. The purpose of insurance is for the diagnosis and treatment of a mental illness. We believe that the problem is the problem and the person or the diagnosis is not the problem. Insurance companies do not recognize people beyond diagnosis. Insurance companies also require a diagnosis, which becomes part of your permanent medical record and can disqualify you from certain careers. Insurance companies get to decide how many sessions you are allowed to see a counselor or therapist and they dictate the services that are provided.
Having a private pay therapist means that you will have more control over your treatment. You will not receive a mental health diagnosis and your session notes will not be submitted to an outside third party. We will be able to freely work together in a way that honors your unique situation and we will tailor our approach to best fit your needs.
When you work with one of our therapists’ you are investing in a therapist who has specific training and education in intimate partner relationships.
We only see a limited number of clients in our practice so you can expect to receive the utmost care and consideration in regards to your relationship needs.
Seeing a carefully selected number of clients allows us to devote time to understanding your specific relationship outside of our sessions together. We will have ample time to review notes, tailor our approaches and interventions to your specific needs, and keep up to date on the latest developments in the field so that you are receiving state-of-the-art treatment.
Therapy sessions are typically 60 minutes, allowing time for deep and meaningful relationship work to take place. We strive to make sure you receive the attention that you deserve without the sense of being rushed.
You may always call your therapist to cancel or reschedule an appointment. Our office policy is that all cancellations and reschedules must be 24 hours before the scheduled appointment to avoid a fee. Late cancellations and no shows have our full rate fee that is charged to the client.
What should I expect in sex therapy?
The primary goal for you in sex therapy is to feel completely comfortable in a safe, non-judgmental environment to express your concerns, and work through the worry that accompanies them. For many this will look like managing the anxiety experiences in talking about these subjects, while finding strategies to help cope with some of the most uncomfortable aspects of our sexuality.
Weather you are trying to navigate finding pleasure in sex, compulsive sexual behaviors, or healing from infidelity, We are here to hear and validate where you are and help guide you to where you want to be.
If you feel this specialized form of counseling/therapy could help you, contact us today to set up a Sex Therapy appointment. We look forward to working with you.